Sigh, my poor hubby…. Saturday I pitched a major and massive hissy fit! Today I get to go clean up what I did (again SIGH…hate that hissy fits ALWAYS seem to have left over results). A little back history… when my husband and I married, he moved me from the farm to the city. That’s okay, I can handle it… most of the time. He moved me to a home he has lived in for YEARS, that too is okay, I can handle it most of the time. He moved me to a home he decorated, again… okay… (guitars of very styles, colors, types are the main decoration throughout the home, but they are pretty).
Well, one thing that DOES get to me once in a while is I have yet to get closet space dedicated to MY clothing. (We are talking two LARGE walk-in closets FILLED to the popping point with his clothes; no room for mine). I, over the past couple of years, have at least pushed a few of his things to a more crowded point so at least my coats can hang. I got three drawers and an armoire to hang my dresses in…
A lot of my things are still at the farm (we go down some and stay because that is where the grand babies are and he IS a good man and knows I need my country time…4 wheelers, shooting guns, walking the pasture, listening to the coyotes and watching the deer and wild turkey! BUT I also have my ‘city’ clothes here for university functions and other things that jeans and t-shirts just don’t quite meet the dress code.
With all of that being said I pitched a hissy fit of epic proportions Saturday!! Bless his sweet heart it is the first one he has ever seen and he is a wise man; he walked off and said nary a word! I was TRYING to get dressed for my niece’s wedding and it would be an hour and a half drive to ‘home’ and Murphy and his stupid law had moved in and taken control UGH! Runner in a new pair of hose, dress I wanted to wear wrinkled because nothing hangs straight in the armoire can’t find the heels I want to wear. It was nice out but would be chilly by the time we left to come home but I could not for the life of me find the little (folded) black jacket I NEEDED (or maybe just wanted) to wear with the outfit. Well, our bedroom floor is STILL covered with the clothes I threw The bright spot in this fit is realizing that I still have a really good throwing arm (yay for years of softball). I WILL be going to a furniture store and at least buying myself a nice BIG dresser (most stuff can be folded) right after I do some furniture rearranging! That will take place right after I pick up my mess! Again, UGH!
The reason for this post…is I learned beyond doubt a few things and we had a wonderful talk last night as we laid in bed.
No matter if every piece of clothing I owned had to always ‘live’ on the floor, I do not want to be anywhere else in my life other than here with my hubby! At least up here, there isn’t a scorpion problem so things laying on the floor doesn’t instantly mean when it is picked up one must cautiously inspect before doing anything other than gingerly holding it. I should have spoken up about wanting even a tiny bit of space (and let me mention, he has 15 year old twin daughters whom I LOVE beyond words but they do tend to think they are welcome to borrow anything of mine and since it is out in the open, obviously I have it out for them…typical teens and that is where the black jacket went). I should have spoken up that I NEED to be able to keep at least a few things as my own and not community property. AND God love his heart, something he asked ME was, how was the weekend overall? Was it good? And we got to visiting he worries way more than he should that I get ‘bored’ so he tries to do things to keep me ‘happy’. We decided when we married I would not work and just hang out around the home and take care of the twins (they LOVE that I go on school trips as a chaperone and can run to the orthodontist and stuff like that). Silly man!!! I AM happy, sure I will admit that while he is out working teaching crime and consulting with various agencies I get a little ‘lonely’ but only because I enjoy being with him! My hissy fit worried him that I am not happy and that city life isn’t for me and he is right, it isn’t for me, but HE IS for me and that means I will follow him anywhere and everywhere! I have started doing a few things up here to meet people, my most favorite is I volunteer for VIARP (Visually Impaired Assisted Rowing Program, ‘we’ actually row and race dragon boats) It is still nothing like being in a place where I know everyone, everyone knows me and we all can tell 7 generations back a family’s history but this is home.
Communication at ALL stages and ages of life is a must and I will speak up when I need to; I will ‘listen’ to his actions and even though I tell him daily that I love him, I WILL reassure him too that my place in life is by his side, but that doesn’t mean this good ol country girl will not ever pitch a hissy fit again!
November 10, 1775 is the birthday of the United States Marine Corp. MY father was a Marine pilot, one of my sons, a Marine Scout Sniper. Thank you. Happy Birthday Marine and Semper Fi!
Veteran’s Day Monday November 11th. Please take the time to thank those that have served. Please let them know they matter and are important each and every day because without them… we might not be able to have our blogs or our facebook…we might not have our freedom! Thank a Vet and ALWAYS respect their service!!!
I was dial switching, the pup needed out and I left it on a station (commercial break). The backdoor was open enough that I could hear tv. A person was talking about how we MUST pass laws to support a Christian life style… really?? He said without laws we would never be able to live as Christians. Passing a law is the only way someone can live as a Christian? Uhmmm how about we also pass laws so those that practice Judaism can live as a Jew, and we need to pass laws for Wiccans and Hindis and Buddhists and… NO! I am sorry but I do NOT agree!!!
‘If you do not like guns, do not buy one’ is a phrase going around lately.. how about, if you do not like abortions, do not get one! If you do not eat beef, do not buy a burger… and on and on. Laws are in place for the betterment of the majority (right?) Laws are in place for safety reasons (right?) Laws are in place for numerous reasons; I guess I did not realize we need LAWS to be able to live the religion of our choice.
You need belief in your heart to live a religion, you need the laws of your bible to live a religion. We can not legislate morality… every one’s moral code is different, its ok to speed but wrong to kill someone… there ya go, you have set in part, your moral code; picking and choosing which laws suit you. Laws do not make you religious… the way YOU choose to live your life does that! I was fascinated listening to this preacher droning on about how IF we do away with gay marriage soon there will be no gays! IF we do away with abortions soon there will be no unwanted pregnancies.. REALLY?? Seriously??? Is there an ocean connected to the sand he has his head buried in?
Live YOUR life, and live your moral code (of course as long as it is within the laws) Live you life in a manner that supports your belief system.. I do not know of any law anywhere that prevents you from living a good, kind and caring life!
Went to the OKC Thunder game tonight (we won yay). We always park in a certain parking garage and it is crowded but never get in too big of a hurry to leave, so not in a huge hurry to get to the car (thank goodness because my feet were killing me, stupid me wearing new shoes). With us was my husband’s daughter and her new hubby. We got to the car, putting things in the back (ok so THEY got to the car and were putting things in the back.. I was bringing up the rear) Hubby got in the car like he was going to start the car and get it warm when I very calmly YELLED DO NOT START THE CAR!!! DO NOT START THE CARRRRRRRRR! ok so maybe I wasn’t calm… of course my family AND the people in their cars all looked at me… but no one had noticed what I saw. Kittens! Kittens under the car that some a$$ had dumped! How were we to know if any had crawled up into the motor area to get warm????? We only found two babies, one came out easily and purred and snuggled and then there was the other one… Oh what a spectacle we were for the people exiting the parking garage HA! But we finally also got ‘Feisty’ out and into our car. Checked the area for more but think they were the only ones. They are now home with K and D and will be well loved.
I grew up in the country. People dump their animals there quite often. Why? Think that the farmer will take them in? Think they are doing the animal a favor by allowing them to roam free? Why dump kittens in a parking garage? If I had not seen those babies we would have run over them and killed them! Dumping an animal is NEVER acceptable behavior. It is cruel! To the animals AND to the people that find them. K and D now have kittens to add to their family of two dogs. The farmer normally has their own pets, and face the dilemma of what to do with the dumped animal… NORMALLY, the kindest thing to do is shoot it. And that is hard because most of us are true animal lovers!
People… if you can not take care of your animal don’t get one, the ones you have, get them fixed! Give them to a shelter (and do not DARE get all preachy about well golly gosh darn the only one around me is not a no kill shelter) There are things worse than dying… or not as badly as a slow starvation death or hit by a car and not dying instantly type death…. ew! Do not own an animal if you can not care for the pet! Do NOT dump animals thinking that you are being kind, you are dumping because you are lazy, ignorant, mean, selfish and cruel!!!
OK so my rant about poor mistreated animals and I will share a cute story. When I was a little girl.. my Papaw and a worker were building fence. They notice, up the road a man dumping a dog out… Jay looked at my Papaw and said Clint, I know who that is and I know where he lives; I will be back in a bit. Jay loaded the dog up and took it back home ad never said a word (the man had not made it back yet). Well move the story to several years later. Papaw and Jay were at the little café where all the farmer/ranchers met every morning for coffee and to cuss and discuss cattle and wheat… The ‘dumper’ came in and was terribly down in the dumps and one of the guy asked what was wrong… and he told all that his dog had died. He THEN told the story about how he had never thought the dog was worth a hill of beans when he first got it so, he took it to the country and drove for MILES all around so the dog would not know where it was, and he put the dog out and then drove MILES so the dog could not follow him. He said, And I will have you know, not only was he on my front porch when I got home, he wasn’t even breathing hard!!! Turned out to be the best friend I ever had!!! Papaw said he and Jay cut their coffee tie short so they could hurry down the road to laugh!!! So remember, the animal you dump might have been the best friend you would of ever had!!
Over on Facebook and on Twitter I see all kinds of friends writing something like November 1st, today I am thankful for… whatever.
So, we are supposed to be thankful for things JUST in November? Or are we supposed to vocalize those things JUST in November? Really? Just this month and then we can go back to being ungrateful wretches? We can go back to expecting things ‘as our due’? for the next 11 months? Hmmph, I guess it is something to think about for sure.
Personally, I try to give thanks daily and not out for ALL TO HEAR (or be bored by) but silently giving thanks for my blessings. Once in a while something random happens and I might express it WHEN IT HAPPENS…I did not know I was supposed to save it till now! Last Christmas, when something inside me told me to tip a Sonic carhop an lot more than my normal $1, I told about her reaction. She went in looking at her tip, came back the door hollering WAIT… she was crying and I had given her the EXACT amount she needed to get her children’s presents out of lay away on Christmas Eve. She said that she had just said a little prayer asking that she made enough in tips, before the store closed that her hubby could come get the money and go buy the presents. She had just started her shift! I gave thanks right then and there that I had listened to the voice in my head telling me how much to give her. I shared the story not for a pat on the back but so others might remember to listen to the little voice in their head too. I was blessed, and thankful then but every single day there is something in my life to be thankful for, even if it is just waking up in the morning!
I am thankful for my parents and the life lessons they taught me. They taught me to be strong (and I needed that strength when I lost them less than 2 months apart). I am thankful for the mistakes they made raising me (or what I thought/think were mistakes) because it helped me become an even better parent (I hope). I am thankful for my grandparents that taught me ‘old ways’ of saving.. anything and everything from money to canning food to making paper from dryer lint because they had lived through hard times!
I am thankful for my children, birth and step. And the grand babies, well they keep my life hopping! They love me almost as much as I love them. I am thankful for my family and my friends. I am also thankful for my enemies! For THEY are who help guide my efforts to always be a better person. My family and friends are my angels on earth that love me no matter what and I daily give thanks for them. But, again, my ‘haters’, they are who inspire me to be better, they inspire me to appreciate the good in my life. Those that have more than I do, I am thankful for them because they remind me to always reach high and strive to achieve. I am thankful for those that have less than I for they allow me to help others and remind me of my Granny’s favorite saying ‘There but for the Grace of God goes I”, they tech me to be humble.
I refuse to drone on about all the lovely in my life…unless you really need a nap then send me a message, I will bore you to sleep?? Haha. But my big point is maybe we need to give thanks DAILY and not one month a year. We need to count our blessings DAILY. If you read this, then you just added to my blessings and even on the worst of days, our lives are filled with blessings and things to be thankful for, we just need to remember to look around us!
So go for it, be thankful but please do it DAILY…. not just for the month of November!!!
Happy Thanksgiving (too early?) Beth
I know a LOT of people are against AHCA ( ACA obamacare, yes they are the same thing; learn this, then read the damned thing, even you do not understand it read it ALL). BUT that isn’t my rant… my rant is.. I keep seeing people saying things like We as Christians need to rise up against obamacare or We as Christians need to fight Obama (or insert whatever ‘fight’ there is at the moment).. Sorry.. WRONG (and yes I believe in God, I believe His Son died for us all) but WRONG.. this is NOT a ‘Christian thing’ this is an AMERICAN thing. Our nation is made up of different colors, different belief systems, different cultures…and news flash not every American is a Christian but every American (with a select few exceptions) IS affected by ACA. If you want to make it a Christian thing then go for it, but understand you are EXCLUDING a whole slew of people that will also be adversely affected (is that the Christian way?). IF you want to make this horrid program a Christian thing.. how about doing as we have been taught and helping your neighbor? Help them pay their bills… you can cut back a pack of cigs a week and cut back a 6 pack or two a week, cut out one soda a day and donate to local free clinics! Please understand I am NOT a fan of ACA (yes we need changes but not this travesty of a bill). Being Christian is truly a wonderful thing but so is being an American. I know I am a total dork about this but PLEASE do not always wave the Christian Flag for anything and everything you do not personally like. It is GREAT being a Christian but we are Christian happy or sad, good or bad.. and we are supposed to live that life each and every day. We are NOT supposed to bring it out as a threat! AND the ones I see using it most often use it only as a crutch and words only! Live it, BE IT and things might just improve without threatening people claiming.. I am a Christian, this wrong, now you are going to get it…It is an AMERICAN thing, what you do about it is a Christian thing…